I left my job as a high profile government official and attorney to pursue my passion -- establishing I-LOVE-ME, LLC and the i-love-me collection. This business was created from my own journey to love myself after a life of being a perfectionist, overworking, major health issues, a 6-year unfulfilling marriage (and subsequent divorce), and doing what everyone else wanted me to do and be. When I started to put ME first, everything in my life changed: I lost 50 pounds, developed good boundaries with others, learned how to say "no," eliminated the dis-eases that ruled my life, and put my work life in proper perspective. I also re-established a relationship with my father after 18 years of silence between us. In short, my gray world turned to color by making one decision to have a better life -- a life I deserved. Now, I feel grateful for everything that has happened and will happen in my life.
People often asked me what I did to make such a radical change and what I was doing that gave me my new "glow." Some even said it appeared I had reinvented myself. It was then that I realized that my story is not unique -- many women suffer from the same neglect that can only happen when she takes care of everyone and everything but herself.
The i-love-me collection is dedicated to all women who need a reminder or want to be inspired by the message that she is a woman before she is a wife, sister, daughter, mother, friend, or co-worker. It is an invitation to pursue a life of self-love. I now have a website that features the successful journeys of other women and seeks to become a place where women can feel supported when they otherwise feel like a team of one.
BE loving, happy, yourself, free.
Host: Why it is important to smile and compliment others?
Ria Moore Benedict: Well, it s important to smile and compliment others because it's a real affection about how you feel in yourself and it's also a really great way to connect with other people, which is why, we are here on this earth, is to connect with other. So, you have no idea, sometimes when you give someone a smile or a compliment, that s it's a really a great way to turn their energy into more positive direction. They may having a really bad day and your smile or your compliment may do lot of turns for that person in turning their life around.
First, it's something again that makes you feel good about yourself. So, you are giving something to someone else but you also reflecting how you feel about yourself inside as well. Now if there s somebody who doesn t really feel that great about yourself right now, it's also a great way for you to learn how to re-change your positive into more positive energy for yourself. So, even if you feel like you are faking it for a little while, just keep doing it because eventually that s going to be how you are feeling about yourself and that will be great for you to retrain and refocus yourself, and have more positive energy for you.