Founder of Perfect Partners Gloria McDonald explains why someone would be attracted to a person from another race or culture.
Gloria MacDonald: My name is Gloria MacDonald and I am a dating and relationship expert. I have a dating service called Perfect Partners and today we are talking about the really important subject of interracial and intercultural relationships. This segment is really a list of things you should consider if you are entering into a relationship that's interracial or intercultural.Host: Why would someone be attracted to someone from another race or culture? Gloria MacDonald: Just to start off this segment. I think it's important to understand why someone might be attracted to someone from another race or culture. Because I have been talking about the fact that by and large our subconscious mind is looking for patterns that we recognize, patterns that are comfortable to us that we are familiar with but Psychologists have shown that people do one of two things. They either gravitate towards those things that are comfortable and familiar to them, patterns that they are comfortable with. So it's very well known that we usually marry someone who is like our mother or like our father because it's a pattern that we are comfortable with. So, we do one of two things. Either we gravitate towards someone that's like our mother or like our father, someone we are comfortable with or we rebel and we go to the opposite and it might be because you say, "I will never be like my father," or "I will never do what my mother did," blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Now very often when people say they won't they end up going right back into that pattern but sometimes people do, do things that are diametrically opposed to what their parents did, to what their patterns are, to what their family, what they are comfortable with. So sometimes people are attracted to someone of a different race or different culture because they are rebelling and this isn't necessarily an outward rebellion. It can be at a subconscious level, but the person that's different that doesn't meet those patterns might be exciting. It might be a thrill. It might be a challenge, something different and maybe to a certain extent that person is trying to get away from a pattern that they are used to and it maybe a good thing because maybe a pattern maybe they are trying to break some cycle that's not so great and maybe they are doing it out of a sense of rebellion and to try to get away from something just for the sake of rebelling.So again, we either gravitate towards something that we are used to, that's familiar, that's comfortable, that's like us or we gravitate to the opposite. So that's why some people would be attracted to someone of another culture or race because it's the opposite or it's different, it's new, it's exciting, it's thrilling.
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